New Jersey Special Education Advocate 

FOR ALL OF NEW JERSEY

Are you ready to get your child the help they need?

We help you navigate through the special education maze.

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 YOUR CHILD 

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I’ve been there.
As a parent, parent group leader, and advocate.

I’ve seen otherwise happy kids come home from school frustrated or upset (see warning signs).
Avoiding reading or homework. Getting into trouble. Leaving class. Acting “sick”.

At first my wife handled it. She grew exasperated.
She begged me to come to a school meeting.
We requested a formal evaluation, but were denied.

Like you, I did the research. On the internet. Talked to other parents.
The terminology was confusing. The process – exhausting.
Once we got the evals (Difficulty/Diagnosis), they were difficult to understand.
The more I learned, the more I need to know.

We heard lots of explanations why everything was fine – but it wasn’t.
“Every child is different”. “They’ll catch up”. “They’ll grow out of it”. “We’re providing lots of support”.
Unfortunately, my kids were not getting what they needed.

When they actually got what they needed, it was magic.
With the right interventions, my frustrated kids closed the gap, built skills and gained confidence.
I sought help from a professional advocate so I could help my kids.
Now, I’ll help you and your kids.

Find out more: You

 WARNING SIGNS 

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The most common reasons parents (we’re including guardians including grandparents) seek help for their child, by age: 

Any Age

Age 0-3

Age 3-5 (Pre-school and Kindergarten)

Age 6-21 (Grade School, Middle School and High School, Grades 1-12)


 DIFFICULTY/ DIAGNOSIS 

More than 20% of children are estimated to have some sort of difficulty or learning difference that interferes with their academic, social or emotional progress in school. Sometimes the difficulty is not diagnosed or may be minimized (e.g. “every child is different”, “your child will grow out of it”).


Some difficulties qualify as a “disability” due to their nature or severity. While many parents don’t like the term, if your child has a disability, he/she may be eligible for extra assistance from the school that can help them academically, emotionally or socially.
We’ll help you understand how to get a correct diagnosis, understand the criteria for assistance and figure out how they apply to your child. While your child will not “grow out “ of a true disability, effective accommodations and services help the child access the school’s program.
The most common difficulties are “hidden,” meaning they not obvious by looking at the child for a short time. Often children exhibit one or more of these (“co-morbid”):


ADHD: Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (includes ADD). Child has difficulty focusing or concentrating especially on more demanding tasks (inattentive type), has signs of being “Hyper” (can’t sit still, excessive motion) or both (combined type).


Autism Spectrum Disorder: (ASD, includes Asperger’s Syndrome): Child has ongoing social weaknesses, including difficulty interacting with others including maintaining eye contact; repetitive behaviors, limited and often intense interests; sensory issues (unusual reaction to stimuli) and one or more of the other difficulties on this page.


Emotional: Child exhibits emotional or behavioral symptoms e.g. of anxiety, oppositional or defiant (ODD), obsessive or compulsive (OCD). school refusal, depression including suicidal ideation or attempts .


Language: Child may separately have delayed or limited expressive language (talking), receptive language (understanding spoken language) or pragmatic language (use of language in social situations, e.g. “getting the joke”).


Learning Disability: Child has difficulty with reading, writing or arithmetic/math, including dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia. In New Jersey, a severe discrepancy (between intelligence as measured by IQ and academic achievement) is typically required for the child to be made eligible for special education (“classified”) for this condition.


Speech: Speech is sometimes used interchangeability with language (see above), because they are both usually treated with speech/language therapy. Child may not be speaking or has limited or delayed speech (including apraxia), is not fluent, does not produce speech sounds correctly/hard to understand (articulation), talks too loud or too softly, or stutters.


Social Skills: Child has difficulty interacting or communicating with others, e.g. relating to other children, playing or working in groups, lacks friends.


Twice Exceptional (or 2E). A child that has one or more of the difficulties on this page but is also gifted in one or more areas, and may have an above average or even genius IQ.


Some difficulties are more “physical” and therefore sometimes more apparent:


Hearing/Auditory Processing: Child could be hard of hearing in one or both ears, deaf, or may have difficulty distinguishing voices in a noisy environment (including decoding audio processing disorder-DAPD).


Small or Gross Motor Skills: Child may have difficulty in drawing, writing or other small motor skills (or receiving Occupational Therapy) or gross motor skills (e.g. walking, sitting, standing) that inhabit participation in school activities including gym and extra-curricular activities like sports.

Other difficulties: include poor vision (including blindness) or visual tracking, development disabilities (e.g. Fragile X Syndrome, Down syndrome, Pervasive Development disorders (PDD), Fetal Alcohol syndrome, Cerebral Palsy (CP), Intellectual Disability; Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI); Tourette’s Syndrome, Body Disymorphic Disorder (BDD), Gender Dysphoria, Hearing Loss.


You

 YOU 

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Raising a typical child is hard enough; you are probably spending extra time, money and effort helping a child who has more than typical difficulties. Sometimes the child needs so much extra time that it becomes stressful, and may affect your health, earnings, job, or relationship with your spouse and other children.

Parents frequently are concerned with one or more of the following:


Lost wages or jobs. One or both parents often spend an inordinate amount of time and money on resolving their children's educational concerns. often parents lost paid hours of work, are under pressure from their employers to spend less time on their child's education, have to downgrade their jobs to part-time or quit their jobs in order to care for their child. We can help you reduce the time you spend on ensuring your child receives an appropriate education. 

Cost of private services. Parents often spend signifiant, sometimes enormous expense to handle what the school should be provding. This includes evaluations, tutoring or private schools, related services (speech services, occupational therapy, physical therapy, counseling) . We can help you reduce and sometimes recover these expenses and get the school to pay for some or all of these going forward

Expense of Advocacy. Parents are concerned about spending money on education advocacy without proportional results. We help you prioritize and take effective action within your means and capacity.. We help you economically get your child the accommodations & services they need to become more confident, keep up with their peers, interact with adults and other children more effectively, stay or become willing to go to participate and go school. We strive to do this in the most economical way consistent with a reasonable probability of getting the results you want. We would love to educate you on how to properly advocate for your child so you can reduce and/or eliminate our services.

Stigma. Parents and their children are often concerned with the emotional and social effect  on their cihld of being pulled from classes with their friends and peers. We help you learn to how to deal with your (and for older children, their child’s) concern that your child will be identified, teased, etc. if they get extra help.

Getting Along. Parents are concerned that the presence of an advocate will cause conflict with the school, often believing that they  have a "good relationship" even though their child is not getting the programs, services, accommoations that they need. Sometimes they are told that advocates will hurt their relatinship with the school, that the school will be forced to bring their attorney to meetings and other nonsenset.  We help you assertively advocate for your and your child’s rights and collaborate to improve your relationship with your school and District while getting what's needed for your child.

Guilt. Parents often are lead to believe, or feel guilty that they are not being good Moms or Dad's or have failed their children. We help you overcome doubts in order to effectively advocate for your child.​​

Confusion, Intimidation and Frustration:​  Parents are often overwhelmed with the process and terminology for 504, IEP, IHP, Disciplinary Action and feel like the learning curve is steep and endless. We patiently educate you with the process and terminology for handling a child with a disability, the 504 and special education process including how to deal with meetings with ½ dozen or more school personnel.

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 US 

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Michael Flom 

Your Child is Exceptional. So are we.

Michael Flom is an award-winning special education advocate, quoted in local, regional and national publications.

Compassionate. We understand what you’re going through because we’ve been there. We help you make the special education process more understandable and productive to reduce anxiety.

Responsive. We know that your child’s welfare is critical to you. We listen carefully to your needs and preferences, and respond rapidly. We can work in the background advising you or by attending meetings with your school. You and your child are important to us.

Economical. We know you have limited time and funds. We offer free initial consultations to qualified parents, competitive rates, and will apply creativity based on your ability to pay when possible. We’ll suggest free or lower cost strategies and resources, and help you choose. We work with you to minimize our time and cost. We recommend attorneys and other experts where needed and cost-effective. We cannot offer legal advice but can perform certain tasks more economically than an attorney.

Educated. We invest in extensive, continuing education – Wrightslaw, NJPA, NAMI, LDANJ, College of William and Mary Law School Special Education Institute, VLJ Student Discipline Guidance, Council of Parent Advocates and Attorneys (COPAA) to keep our skills sharp and up to date.

Experienced. We have more than 10 years successful experience in dealing with hundreds of students and Districts.

Effective. We continue to get results in a wide variety of challenging, situations, disabilities and school Districts. If your case needs more specialized expertise than we can offer, we’ll refer you. We’ve headed or participated in parent support and advocacy groups at the District, State and National levels.​

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 RESULTS 

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 OUR SERVICES 

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Our services include:

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 OUR PROCESS 

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Our Process
Our process is customized for your and your child’s situation. Key elements of a typical process include:​

We can do almost everything an attorney can do at a fraction of the price. However, we are non-attorney advocates. We cannot provide legal advice, but if needed we can recommend those that do.

Initial Consultation. This no charge, brief meeting helps us understand your child’s situation. We determine whether we are a mutual fit. Services after initial meeting, or for an extended meeting, are  availablefor a reasonable hourly fee. 

We are professional advocates. If you cannot afford a professional, or if you are looking for free advice, please let us know and we will refer you.

Intake. We request and review key documentation and a statement of your and your child issues, and concerns. We develop and share with you an analysis  of our findings, a suggested list of objectievs, a strategy to achieve them, and as appropriate, an action plan and estimate for the next steps

Requests and Responses. We draft or help you write requests and responses to the school as appropriate, e.g. for evaluations, IEP’s, complaints or other actions.​

Meetings: We assist or lead and represent you at all school District meetings. To eliminate travel time, we can meet anywhere in NJ via audio or video conference.

Follow-up. Follow-up is critical to help ensure continued results. We check with you as needed, e.g. every semester or annually, to make sure your child is getting the services he or she needs to succeed.

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 DISTRICTS 

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We serve all New Jersey Districts

​Remote audio and video conferencing is available to eliminate travel costs.

​Zoom in (e.g. reverse pinch) to see your town/District 

 CONTACT US NOW 

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